2 Corinthians 6:14 NIV
[ Do Not Be Yoked With Unbelievers ] Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
While I don't follow every single scripture based on my beliefs, but I am able to find truth in almost every historical and spritual book. We all agree that trying to reinvent the wheel is pointless, so why not read what someone said, back in the day?
In relationships: All Types (Romantic, Platonic, Employment, Biological, etc..) I believe that the parties involved MUST be "evenly yoked". Not just in the means shared above, but in word and in deed.
Some people feel that love is all you need to keep a relationship going. I disagree. It is the basis for the the foundation, but there must be something which binds the ties:
Maybe, you both are students
Maybe, you both like to take pictures
Maybe, you both like to do "odd jobs' around the house
Maybe, you both like to exercise
Maybe, you both love watching old movies
Of course you won't be exactly like anyone, nor should you expect them to be because we are all unique. But I assure you that relationships WILL NOT work "smoothly" if there are no common ties:
Person A believes in higher education, Person B hasn't compeleted High School.
Person A believes in waiting a while to address a matter so as not to say the wrong thing, Person B gets so angry that they MUST blurt out the first thing which comes to mind.
Person A likes things in their place, Person B, doesn't give a damn and will take things off or out of place and leave them there.
Person A likes to save money, while Person B will spend every dime.
Have you ever seen a situation, where an unevenly yoked group ever moves forward? Or does something substantial?
Don't worry I'll wait.
Let me leave you with this:
A person will only go as far as their imagination takes them. You can want someone to be better, but if they don't see themselves that way and make a decision to do better...your opinion, time and energy is wasted!!
Elizabeth this was well said. Sometime we think that just because the person is nice and fine, or that we love them that the relationship can work. I ended a marriage of 7 years with my Husband because he refused to do "anything". He used to be proactive and tidy, and then suddenly he seemed to lose interest in the normal adult things. I stayed in there for as long as I could. We even did counseling. But in the end we wanted too different things. He wanted to sit in a dirty room talking the talk; and I wanted to live life and walk the walk. Good riddens. Also, we should nip things in the butt now when we meet someone, if we are not of the same accord, why even go forward?
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