Wish List

My sisters, my beautiful sisters....*sighs* I am sure that we all have a laundry list of qualities that we would like in a mate. But stop. Stop just for a moment. Line up the list of qualities that you want. Now, place a check mark by every one of those qualities that you actually possess.

Sidebar- We should have expectations. We should know what we want and do not want. There should be some absolutes in our lives because if we don't have those, we are basically saying "Whatever you give me, I'll TAKE it."

But, for everything which we desire, those absolutes like:
He/She should be employed, honest, financially stable, have a relationship with God.
Are we employed, honest, financially stable, in a relationship with God? If we answered no to either of those; we should return to the drawing board; OR- simply take this time to work on us. Of course, working on self should be an ongoing task. I know, my personal goal is to always be better, in health and in every other area of my life. I start some of those projects, get discourage and stop. Then I start again in hope and determination, as we all should. But before we go knocking all sisters and brothers saying that they are trash, or there aren't any good suitors around; we should really look at ourselves. The people that we attract are simply a mirror image of our standards.

All, I want for my beautiful sisters is that we stop looking for someone to fix us, or read our minds or to even save us. A Partner is supposed to enhance us; partner with us in life. But how can their be enhancement, if nothing exists???? We have to dig deep and deal with issues about our hair, weight, sexuality, communication skills, body parts that we don't care for, lack of education, the fact that we are divorcee's or the fact that we have kids, or the fact that we were molested, or the fact that we've been abused. We have to be real with ourselves, first, so that the healing and building process can start. At the end of the day, who wants to enter a partnership of any kind if the person has stability issues, can't be honest about who they are or can't "hold down a household" if the opportunity presented itself? Finally, I have learned that just because a person has potential, what good is that if they don't see it and activate it.

Take time to heal, grow, find passions and fall so deep in love with us first. Everything else will come in the appointed time. Let's take this journey together. I have a good feeling about this whole process.

Peace & Blessings :)