My thoughts are all over the place right now. I don't know if I should laugh or cry. Interestingly, I am tired of doing both, so I will just do what I do best; write.
Writing is such a release for me. It allows me to get lost between the jargon and the punctuation and somehow come out refreshed and please.
So, good people, where shall I start this time?
Recently, I acquired a new friend, or at least someone who I hope will become a friend. She is educated, creative and well spoken. But above all these things we share the same sign. Gooo Libras!! Normally, I don't gel with a person that quickly. But, I feel she is a kindred spirit; now I could be wrong, but if I am then, at least I will know that I served my purpose. She is going through some things right now. The young lady whom she was involved with has decided to seperate from her. Now, this has made my new friend quite unhappy, because she felt that the relationship had such great promise and doesn't really understand how things went from good to bad so abruptly.
This type of situation happens all the time, and frankly, I am in one similarly. The whole topic has me wondering:
If you are truly unhappy in a relationship, are you supposed to stick it out so as not to hurt the other person?
If you say that you will try to make things work, shouldn't you go above and beyond to show the other person that you are really doing your best?
And, finally, who measures your best?-I mean if someone is truly exhausted, their best may be relative to their current mental state and may NOT measure up to what we feel it should be.
What do we make of all this? Heck, what do I make of all this? I guess love is again one of those unanswered matters that we can ponder and debate on infinitely, only to realize that we haven't gotten very far at all.
Somewhere in my mind and heart, I believe that when the cosmos align properly (timing is right) and the opportunity is right, and the right people are involved, love will prevail. But, rarely does it work when the situation is one sided. You cannot MAKE A PERSON WANT YOU, OR LOVE YOU OR WANT TO MOVE FORWARD WITH YOU, OR SPEND TIME WITH YOU. In fact the more you push and try to control a situation, the worse it becomes. Resentment, hate and bitterness are usually the next stops.
People find a way to do whatever it is that they want to do. I have seen people swear that they have no time for someone who loves them; but turn right around and spend that same time with someone else.
I have dated people who just did not quite cut the mustard, and then months later, they are walking down the ailse with someone. My point is, if we are NOT the one, then we are not the one. No amount of tears, poems, text messages or prayers can make it so. Yes, it hurts like hell to know that the person you love or care about does not feel the same way about you. But, I would rather find out about it now, before the car loan, and the mortgage, and the kids, and the pictures and the parties. I don't know where life is going to take me, or some of my "relationship-limboed" friends; but I do know that I am going to be true to me. If something doesn't feel right, I won't do it. If I keep extending myself, only to be turned down or slapped in the face by an array of broken promises and tosses to the back burner, between this activity and that one, I will remove myself from the situation; because as I previously stated, life is too short to be unhappy.
Ok this is a good one. You are really gifted Ms. Liz.
ReplyDeleteYes, I had someone who I felt was really the one, but after so many broken promises and so many let downs, i had to let him go. He had kids and I didn't, so I always felt like I had to be on his time, and finally I could not take it anymore. Now he's with someone else who dogs him out, but he finds time for her. people are funny.